I have this whole elaborate thing built up in my head where Srafen and/or rher spouses were transgender; it would give their somewhat interesting relationship a completely different depth that fascinates me.

And yes, not having a gender until adolescence! On the one hand, that would have to be deeply traumatic when the differentiation did happen; on the other hand, you'd have a childhood behind you that was free of gender expectations... I bet there are a *lot* of dysphoric lamviin, and I bet a *lot* of them pass...

(Also, the way that being trans works in a society that has non-binary gender already, you add cissurmale and fts and mts and stm and stf to the mix and things get even more intersectional, especially since I haven't really figured out how the privilege ladder works re: female vs. surmale.)