Thank you so much for having the courage to post this. Because it gives me the courage to say: me too. I identify as asexual. Probably aromantic (no crushes, ever), possibly biromantic (I feel most comfortable in close friend-relationships with women and men who are not typically "masculine," and wouldn't reject more emotional intimacy). I found the AVEN site in 2009, when I was 27, and it just clicked: I'm more than a "shy straight girl waiting for the right guy." I don't need to keep seeing myself as the incomplete half of some future heteronormative couple I have never wanted to be in. I am complete in myself; I satisfy myself. Asexuality is not frigidity or brokenness or lack, but another way of living with oneself. That was a liberating realization.
The hard thing now is admitting it. Same as you, I find it really hard to tell anyone irl beyond a trusted few. I used to think I had a right to keep my private life private. But it's beginning to feel hypocritical for me to support LGBT rights, the right of people to speak and live who they are, while keeping myself stifled in silence. None of us needs to feel alone, even if we are single. Your post today has confirmed that for me. So thanks again for the conversational opening. I hope you don't mind me contributing too. ^^
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regna
Thank you
Date: 2011-07-04 14:24 (UTC)The hard thing now is admitting it. Same as you, I find it really hard to tell anyone irl beyond a trusted few. I used to think I had a right to keep my private life private. But it's beginning to feel hypocritical for me to support LGBT rights, the right of people to speak and live who they are, while keeping myself stifled in silence. None of us needs to feel alone, even if we are single. Your post today has confirmed that for me. So thanks again for the conversational opening. I hope you don't mind me contributing too. ^^